Even though I don’t like the idea of New Year’s resolutions, I do find that I am prone to starting something at the beginning chronologically such as, “on Monday”, or “the first of the month”, so I suppose starting something new or ending a bad habit in the New Year makes a certain kind of sense. Something you might not know about me is that I spent hours playing online games. Word games, solitaire team games, puzzle games, you name it. It is as mindless as my eating and drinking habits, one more way to ignore my emotions and pass the time without having to engage in my life. My life engagement has been pared down to doing the essentials, shopping, cooking, cleaning, paying the bills.
Even when I do complete something like getting the master bedroom walls repaired and painted in a tight timeframe, or writing a novel in 30 days, the anxiety and doubt, and outright fear of criticism, dominate and leave little room for the satisfaction of accomplishment. I can’t guarantee any of that will change, but what I am doing is removing some of the obstacles to feeling the emotions that I try to avoid. I have removed the gaming apps from my phone, and I am embarking on “Dry January” starting today. I do suspect that letting some of those fears and anxieties see the light of day may have a ripple effect that I cannot yet foresee but I know that burying them has had an impact on my physical as well as emotional health. Knowing that I am well past the halfway point in my life, paying more attention to my physical health is certainly a priority and I can see that much of that is being stymied by ignoring my emotional life and treating it as if it can be set out with the donations like an old pair of tennis shoes.
As much as it is human to look at bad habits that need changing such as, “this is the year I’m going to quit smoking” putting in place healthy habits can go a long way in supporting getting rid of the unhealthy ones. With that in mind, this year I am adding, 24 in ’24, thanks to Gretchen Rubin, author of the “Happiness Project”. Her suggested goal is to write 24 minutes a day. She offers other options for those who find that overwhelming, but for me the 24+ minutes fits some of my other goals. I am also adding last year’s goal that I did not participate in and that is getting outdoors for at least 24 minutes a day. Even rounding up, that is one hour out of each day, and I can assure you I spent far more than that playing games on my phone.
And lastly a one-word theme for my year. “Visible”. Make my emotions, my surroundings, my value, visible to me and others. This is a positive way of saying, stop being invisible. The more I grow myself, connect with my surroundings and my feelings, the harder it will be to ignore me, which may very well have unintended consequences, but ones I will hopefully be prepared to face when the time comes.
On to getting outdoors where the sun is trying to escape the gloom which has dominated for weeks. As the sun tries to shine, so will I.
Happy New Year